No one writes like this now.
Nathaniel
Wathen (1772-1856), a wealthy clothier from the Stroud district of
Gloucestershire, writes to his wife Mary Beardmore (1779-1838) living in
Islington. The couple married in 1804. Their families had close connections to
leading Wesleyan Methodists: Nathaniel
Wathen’s parents knew John Wesley and are known to have invited him to dinner
in 1782; Mary learnt to play the organ with Samuel Wesley, nephew of John
Wesley, a noted composer and organist who has a Wikipedia page which records
his rather scandalous life. Her father knew John Wesley. Whether she continued to played the organ after her marriage I do not know
The
Wathen and Beardmore families have been exhaustively researched by Michael S
Clark (Mike Clark) and I provide references to his work at the end. When Nathaniel
Wathen writes of walking to the Mill it is most likely the Hope Mill at Brimscombe outside Stroud which, at this period, he managed with his brother. The numerous characters introduced in this letter are probably quite easy to research.
Transcription
Addressed
to: Mrs Wathen No. 5 Canonbury Place
Islington
Datelined:
Stroud Wednesday 1 May 1805
No
despatch postmark legible; London receiver marks of 2nd May 1805
Docketing
note: Received May 2nd Answered May 4th 1805
I
sent my dearest Mary half a dozen lines yesterday in a parcel of Mr Partridge’s
by Coach containing a letter from Elizth. which I hope you will have received.
I was greatly disappointed & made rather anxious by the non receipt of your
Letter on Sunday which thro’ the inattention of Jenner or his people, was
overlooked when Charles called so that I did not have it till Monday when at
breakfast. During that interval I felt firmly persuaded that there must be a
letter & I was enabled to cast the burden of my anxiety on him who careth
for us. I was made happy & thankful, however, to the giver of all mercies
when I learn that you & the dear pledge of our love were going on well
& that you bore our separation so tolerably being convinced that each was in
the path of duty. Still however it seems that the wings of time appear to move
rather more heavily than when I was with you, notwithstanding that you have so
much to interest your affections & occupy your thoughts & attention, I
feel a hope (may I not add a strong confidence) that our present separation may
be rendered beneficial to our best interests by giving us subjects for
reflection and thanksgiving – by causing our minds to meditate on the tender
mercies & loving kindness of our God
that have been exercised towards us in so abundant a manner thro’ the vista of
our past life, on those that we still so largely experience, and above all on
those transcendent, sublime & perpetual enjoyments that lie before us and
may with confidence be laid hold on by the arm of faith by us if we do truly
& sincerely desire & endeavour by divine assistance to seek our
happiness in God & thankfully to acknowledge the channel thro’ which all
our blessings flow.
My
conscience accuses me of indolence & sloth in the discharge of my duty
towards God since we have been united, as well as for unmindfulness & want
of thankfulness for the many favors that he has heaped upon us. As an instance
of the former I cannot but consider the not having set out with family prayer
in the morning which I henceforth hope we shall endeavour to exercise ourselves
in as constantly as no foible, having begun it since Mr Williams has been with
me, At this period of the day we are particularly called on to grateful
acknowledgments in family as well as in private prayer when we call to mind the
preservation of the night, the business that calls us into action in the
ensuing day, & above all when we consider the wily foes that we have to
contend with. Under such impressions we ought right humbly & gladly to bow
our knees before the Father of the Lord Jesus Christ that we may plead for
mercy as a family & obtain the grace we may need day by day, I do not
doubt, my love, that you will coincide in these sentiments & feel a
disposition to unite with me in the resolution by God’s grace to carry them
into effect. The multiplicity of business that demands so large a portion of
our time ought not, must not prevent us from spending a quarter of an hour in
reding a short portion of scripture & in supplicating the Throne of Grace.
I have always experienced the advantage of this morning exercise in my ride or
walk to the Mill & during the remaining day. On Monday Mr Williams & I
dined at Newhouse & yesterday he went to Mr Charles Wathen’s where he
intends to stay ‘till Friday when he is to return here. I am much pleased with
him & desire to be truly thankful to the great Head of the Church for
having in the order of his Providence brought him hither. On Sunday, I had Mrs
Lees & Miss Iles with our brother and sister. I spoke to the two former
respecting Mrs Ford’s proposal, which seemed to be relished by Anne Iles, but
respecting which she requested to be allowed time to consider. The Friday Lecture
during the ensuing season is to be preached in the evening service beginning at
½ past six o’clock. I have invited the same party on Friday that dined here on
Sunday in order to give them an opportunity of going to Church. Mr Williams the
Preacher is now at Stroud to make a short visit to assist Mr Rhodes during Mr
Woolmer’s absence: he supped with me last night & desired his best
respects. He told me of the excellent effects that might be expected from the
Methodist Sunday Schools which have been established in many place &
exhorted me very much to exertion in that way at Stroud, The great peculiarity
attached to these schools amongst the Methodists is that all the Teachers give
their labours gratis instead of being paid for them: and you know that, in such
case, more attention & care may very reasonably be expected as well as the
exertion of pious endeavours to inform the judgment and to affect the hearts of
children. It seems that a large school has been within six months been
established at Dursley where Mr W generally resides. He does not yet give up
the affair with Miss Cooke: it seems (at least I judge so from what he said)
that it is to the mother that are to be ascribed the impediments &
difficulties that have been raised [presumably to a marriage]. Mr & Mrs Scudamore the child & two
servants go to Bristol for a fortnight or so next week & have taken
lodgings in King Square: the latter is grown quite large & has been rather
complaining of late. I go after exercise with the Corps this evening to Brimscombe
[a short distance from Stroud] to make arrangements about raising the
money to pay off the debt on the Chapel account. Mr Scudamore is to meet me. I
called Sunday evening after having been at the Chapel on Mrs Willis & Mrs
Holton who are both very poorly & not again likely, as I think, to regain
strong health. Mrs Ellis is well. I indulge the hope that Dr Baillie’s prescriptions
for our dear mother will be attended with the divine blessing & I trust
that she will largely enjoy that peace of God that passeth all understanding.
Give my tender love to her & be assured my dr. Mary of my unalterable
affection NW [ Nathaniel Wathen, her husband] present me affectionately
to your father & each of your circle & tell your uncle that I hope to
send his cloth & … with the rugs in two or three days.
References
https://www.mikesclark.com/genealogy/mills.html
https://www.mikesclark.com/genealogy/wathen.html#nw
https://www.mikesclark.com/genealogy/beardmore.html
Wikipedia: Samuel Wesley (composer, born 1766)

